How to Be a Good Dad


At times, it can be daunting.

Maybe there are moments you don’t have a clue what you’re doing. The swaddling. The tough questions. The disciplining. The nurturing. Other times, maybe it feels like you really earned that “#1 Dad” coffee mug.

But whether you ace the test of fatherhood every time or not, you’ve been given one of the greatest gifts around—a child to guide and direct, mold and teach, raise and nurture. So how can you make sure you get it right?

God is the greatest example of fatherhood we have. You can learn about Him in the Bible, which is the best guidebook to life there is.

Here are some things the Bible—and God Himself—has to say to fathers. After all, why not learn from the best?

Be attentive.

When His followers thought He had better things to do, God welcomed children with open arms. He paid attention to them and took time for them. Your job or hobbies may come and go, but investing in your children is priceless. And they don’t stay children for long.

Set an example.

This one may seem like a no-brainer, but you can’t forget that you have someone looking up to you. That’s what kids do, and they don’t grow out of it. Do you want your children following in your footsteps? Follow God’s lead as you strive to be loving, forgiving, firm and fair.

Empower your children.

God guides us and gives us wisdom. He’s also compassionate and wants what’s best for us. Encourage your kids. Support them. Teach them and lead them. It takes patience—and may give you a few gray hairs—but they’ll thank you for it.

Don’t do it alone.

Being a man isn’t about proving to others how strong and capable you are. That’s ego. Being a man, and especially being a father, is about knowing how dependent you are on others to do your job well. Particularly how dependent you are on God. You’re not meant to do this alone.


Praying is talking to God, and we already established that He’s the best mentor you’ve got. Talk to Him about your children. Pray for the strength and wisdom you need to be a good father. Even Jesus prayed to His Father, so you know it’s important.

God wants to help you not only as a father, but in every part of your life. He loves you and wants a relationship with you.


Step 1 – God’s Purpose: Peace and Life

God loves you and wants you to experience peace and eternal life.

The Bible says:

"We have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ."
Romans 5:1

"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life."
John 3:16

"I [Jesus] have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly."
John 10:10

What keeps us from having the life God planned for us?

Step 2 – The Problem: Our Separation from God

God created us in His image. He gave us a will and the freedom of choice; we choose to disobey Him and go our own way—which is called sin. This separates us from God.

The Bible says:

"For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God."
Romans 3:23

"For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord."
Romans 6:23

Our choice to sin separates us from God. People have tried many ways to bridge this gap between themselves and God.

The Bible says:

"There is a way that appears to be right, but in the end it leads to death."
Proverbs 14:12

"But your iniquities have separated you from your God; your sins have hidden his face from you, so that he will not hear."
Isaiah 59:2

No bridge reaches God... except one.

Step 3 – God’s Bridge: The Cross

Jesus Christ died on the cross and rose from the grave. When He did He paid the penalty for our sin and bridged the gap between us and God.

The Bible says:

"For there is one God and one mediator between God and mankind, the man Christ Jesus."
1 Timothy 2:5

"For Christ also suffered once for sins, the righteous for the unrighteous, to bring you to God."
1 Peter 3:18

God has provided the only way back to Him. You must make a choice.

Step 4 – Our Response: Receive Christ

We must trust and receive Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior.

The Bible says:

"Yet to all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God."
John 1:12

"If you declare with your mouth, 'Jesus is Lord,' and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved."
Romans 10:9

Which side are you on? The side with Christ or without Him?

Here is how you can accept Christ into your life:

We suggest a prayer like this one:

"Dear God, I know I’m a sinner, and I ask for your forgiveness. I believe Jesus Christ is Your Son. I believe that He died for my sin and that you raised Him to life. I want to trust Him as my Savior and follow Him as Lord, from this day forward. Guide my life and help me to do your will. I pray this in the name of Jesus. Amen."

Did you pray this prayer?