How to Be a Good Mom

Being a mother isn’t for the faint of heart. That’s why you sometimes wonder, “Am I a good mom?” It’s hard work and can be thankless work, but being a good mom is a good work. It’s worth the effort.

The Bible is a book that has a lot to say about the value of parenting and even has some guidance on doing it.

Consider these tips on how to be a good mom:

1. Love your children. And let them know you love them. Being a mom is hard and can be exhausting. Kids don’t understand the physical and emotional cost to provide, protect and care for them. In their innocence they take it for granted. But a good mom knows that real love involves sacrifice. Giving with no promise of return. The Bible says that there’s no greater love than laying down your life for another person (John 15:13). A good mom loves through it all.

2. Say “No.” Love your children enough to say “No” when they do wrong. Back it up with appropriate discipline (but not in anger). Be sure you and your husband agree, though; children are very adept at playing off one parent against the other! Always letting a child have his or her own way is easier in the moment, and it may seem like the loving thing to do at the time, but in reality it’s a sure recipe for problems later on. For new mothers that may seem hard, but a good mom decides in advance what limits she will place on her children and is prepared to back them up. The Bible says the person who truly loves his or her child is diligent to discipline them (Proverbs 13:24). A good mom disciplines because she loves.

3. Create space. Nobody can be who they should be all the time every day. Often, a few minutes to relax at the end of the day can work wonders. Of course, it’s nice to get away for the occasional weekend but you would be surprised how a nice dinner date can be just what the doctor ordered. Being a good mom means carving out time to recharge and refresh. Your kids will notice.

4. Forgive yourself. You are going to blow it. You’re not perfect, and it’s perfectly fine if your kids know that. But handle it the right way. A good mom asks her kids for forgiveness when she needs to. Not only that, a good mom knows she needs God’s forgiveness so that she can fully love and forgive others.

At the end of the day, being a good mom, or filling any role you may have, starts with having your own heart at peace. It begins by knowing the God who made you. The God who sent His Son Jesus Christ to die for you so that you can be forgiven—so that you can live full of hope and free to love and serve your kids.

What makes a good mom? The first step is asking Jesus to be a part of your life. Have you done that? Keep reading.


Step 1 – God loves you and has a plan for you!

The Bible says, “God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, [Jesus Christ], that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life” (John 3:16). Jesus said, “I came that they may have life and have it abundantly”—a complete life full of purpose (John 10:10). But here’s the problem:

Step 2 – People are sinful and separated from God.

We have all done, thought or said bad things, which the Bible calls “sin.” The Bible says, “All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23). The result of sin is death, spiritual separation from God (Romans 6:23). The good news?

Step 3 – God sent His Son to die for your sins!

Jesus died in our place so we could have a relationship with God and be with Him forever. “God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us” (Romans 5:8). But it didn’t end with His death on the cross. He rose again and still lives! “Christ died for our sins. … He was buried. … He was raised on the third day, according to the Scriptures” (1 Corinthians 15:3-4). Jesus is the only way to God. Jesus said, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life; no one comes to the Father, but through Me” (John 14:6).

Step 4 – Would you like to receive God’s forgiveness?

We can’t earn salvation; we are saved by God’s grace when we have faith in His Son, Jesus Christ. All you have to do is believe you are a sinner, that Christ died for your sins, and ask His forgiveness. Then turn from your sins—that’s called repentance. Jesus Christ knows you and loves you. What matters to Him is the attitude of your heart, your honesty. We suggest praying the following prayer to accept Christ as your Savior:

"Dear God, I know I’m a sinner, and I ask for your forgiveness. I believe Jesus Christ is Your Son. I believe that He died for my sin and that you raised Him to life. I want to trust Him as my Savior and follow Him as Lord, from this day forward. Guide my life and help me to do your will. I pray this in the name of Jesus. Amen."

Did you pray this prayer?