How to Get Over Heartbreak

The word heartbreak triggers immediate thoughts of loss—maybe the loss of a loved one, divorce, or a broken relationship. But soul-crushing grief isn’t necessarily limited to missing someone close to you.

It could also be a rejection letter from your dream school or a wayward child who won’t return your calls. Your anguish feels like it’s too much to bear and you think, “Where is God?”

God wants you to know He is right there beside you and He’ll show you a way through it.

1. You’re not alone. Despite the agony you feel now, your Heavenly Father has not deserted you. He sees you hurting and aches alongside you. The Bible states, “the Lord your God goes with you. He will never leave you nor forsake you” (Deuteronomy 31:6). He knows the tears you’ve cried, and His heart breaks, too, because He loves you. In the Bible, we are reminded that, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed” (Psalm 34:18). Talk to God as you would a friend. He’s listening and wants to hear from you.
2. You matter. A broken relationship does not define those who find their identity in Jesus Christ. The Bible is clear, “Even if my father and mother abandon me, the LORD will hold me close” (Psalm 27:10). And when you choose to let God take you in, you become His child. You are adopted into God’s family and get to “share in the inheritance that belongs to his people” (Colossians 1:12).
3. You’ll get through this. The Bible says, “Despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us” (Romans 8:37). God gave you the desire to love and be loved. He cannot fail you. He will dry your eyes, lift up your head and make it possible for you to get over your heartbreak.
4. There’s no deadline. Victory is promised through Jesus, but there isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution for your broken heart. Healing takes time and forgiveness. Evangelist Billy Graham has likened it to recovering from major surgery. Just as your skin, ligaments and muscles need time to heal, so do your emotions.
5. You will love again. More than just getting through it, God can restore your heart if you let Him fill you with His perfect and faithful love. God created a desire in each of us that can only be filled by Him—then we can experience restoration. God promises to “give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you” (Ezekiel 36:26). That means you can love again. Your heart can be whole again if you choose to experience God’s unfailing love.

Let God heal your heartbreak, beginning with a relationship with Jesus.