How to Get Over Heartbreak

The word heartbreak triggers immediate thoughts of loss—maybe the loss of a loved one or a relationship. But soul-crushing grief isn’t necessarily limited to missing someone close to you.

It could also be a rejection letter from your dream school or a wayward child who won’t return your calls. Your anguish feels like it’s too much to bear and you think, “Where is God?

God wants you to know He is right there beside you and He’ll show you a way through it.

  1. You’re not alone. Despite the agony you feel now, your Heavenly Father has not deserted you. He sees you hurting and aches alongside you. The Bible states, “the Lord your God goes with you. He will never leave you nor forsake you” (Deuteronomy 31:6). He knows the tears you’ve cried, and His heart breaks, too, because He loves you. In the Bible, we are reminded that, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed” (Psalm 34:18). Talk to God as you would a friend. He’s listening and wants to hear from you.
  2. You matter. A broken relationship does not define those who find their identity in Jesus Christ. The Bible is clear, “Even if my father and mother abandon me, the LORD will hold me close” (Psalm 27:10). And when you choose to let God take you in, you become His child. You are adopted into God’s family and get to “share in the inheritance that belongs to his people” (Colossians 1:12).
  3. You’ll get through this. The Bible says, “Despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us” (Romans 8:37). God gave you the desire to love and be loved. He cannot fail you. He will dry your eyes, lift up your head and make it possible for you to get over your heartbreak.
  4. There’s no deadline. Victory is promised through Jesus, but there isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution for your broken heart. Healing takes time and forgiveness. Evangelist Billy Graham has likened it to recovering from major surgery. Just as your skin, ligaments and muscles need time to heal, so do your emotions.
  5. You will love again. More than just getting through it, God can restore your heart if you let Him fill you with His perfect and faithful love. God created a desire in each of us that can only be filled by Him—then we can experience restoration. God promises to “give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you” (Ezekiel 36:26). That means you can love again. Your heart can be whole again if you choose to experience God’s unfailing love.

Let God heal your heartbreak, beginning with a relationship with Jesus.


Step 1 – God’s Purpose: Peace and Life

God loves you and wants you to experience peace and eternal life.

The Bible says:

"We have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ."
Romans 5:1

"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life."
John 3:16

"I [Jesus] have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly."
John 10:10

What keeps us from having the life God planned for us?

Step 2 – The Problem: Our Separation from God

God created us in His image. He gave us a will and the freedom of choice; we choose to disobey Him and go our own way—which is called sin. This separates us from God.

The Bible says:

"For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God."
Romans 3:23

"For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord."
Romans 6:23

Our choice to sin separates us from God. People have tried many ways to bridge this gap between themselves and God.

The Bible says:

"There is a way that appears to be right, but in the end it leads to death."
Proverbs 14:12

"But your iniquities have separated you from your God; your sins have hidden his face from you, so that he will not hear."
Isaiah 59:2

No bridge reaches God... except one.

Step 3 – God’s Bridge: The Cross

Jesus Christ died on the cross and rose from the grave. When He did He paid the penalty for our sin and bridged the gap between us and God.

The Bible says:

"For there is one God and one mediator between God and mankind, the man Christ Jesus."
1 Timothy 2:5

"For Christ also suffered once for sins, the righteous for the unrighteous, to bring you to God."
1 Peter 3:18

God has provided the only way back to Him. You must make a choice.

Step 4 – Our Response: Receive Christ

We must trust and receive Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior.

The Bible says:

"Yet to all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God."
John 1:12

"If you declare with your mouth, 'Jesus is Lord,' and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved."
Romans 10:9

Which side are you on? The side with Christ or without Him?

Here is how you can accept Christ into your life:

We suggest a prayer like this one:

"Dear God, I know I’m a sinner, and I ask for Your forgiveness. I believe Jesus Christ is Your Son. I believe that He died for my sin and that You raised Him to life. I want to trust Him as my Savior and follow Him as Lord, from this day forward. Guide my life and help me to do Your will. I pray this in the name of Jesus. Amen."

Did you pray this prayer?

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