Should I Get a Divorce?

Does it feel like your marriage is over? Have one of you mentioned divorce during an argument? Are you wondering when it’s time? Even during these tough times, you’re not alone. The Bible, which is God’s own words to us, and Jesus, who loves us more than anyone else, can provide guidance and comfort. They can help show you the path forward and give you hope when it all seems hopeless.

Marriage Is Special

Marriage is unique because it’s about a man and a woman coming together as one and this is what makes it different from all other relationships. Jesus described it when He was asked about divorce. He said, “This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together” (Matthew 19:6). What this means is that your marriage is more than just a promise between you and your partner; it’s a commitment between you, your partner, and God. His desire is for you two to be one.

Grace for One Another

No one is perfect—not your spouse and not you. God tells us to treat others the way He treats us, with kindness and forgiveness. As it says in the Bible, “Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others” (Colossians 3:13). So it’s important to be patient and forgive your spouse when they make mistakes, the same way God forgives you. He understands who you are and your weaknesses.

More Than a Feeling

Love isn’t just a feeling; it’s a choice. “Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance” (1 Corinthians 13:7). This means that true love, the kind God wants for us, lasts long after your feelings fade. This kind of love is strong and can help you and your spouse get through tough times. You’ll find a special level of healing with the love described here. “Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8). God is sharing a powerful love that can be the answer to your pain and problems.

The Power of Three

“A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken” (Ecclesiastes 4:12). God is the third partner in your marriage. He can provide extra strength to help protect your marriage from life’s struggles and to pursue reconciliation when your marriage is strained.

In any struggle we face in life, including marriage challenges, our most important need is to reconcile with God. When we embrace His love, He supports us and empowers us to share that love with others.