How to Get Over Heartbreak

The word heartbreak triggers immediate thoughts of loss—maybe the loss of a loved one or a relationship. But soul-crushing grief isn’t necessarily limited to missing someone close to you.

It could also be a rejection letter from your dream school or a wayward child who won’t return your calls. Your anguish feels like it’s too much to bear and you think, “Where is God?

God wants you to know He is right there beside you and He’ll show you a way through it.

  1. You’re not alone. Despite the agony you feel now, your Heavenly Father has not deserted you. He sees you hurting and aches alongside you. The Bible states, “the Lord your God goes with you. He will never leave you nor forsake you” (Deuteronomy 31:6). He knows the tears you’ve cried, and His heart breaks, too, because He loves you. In the Bible, we are reminded that, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed” (Psalm 34:18). Talk to God as you would a friend. He’s listening and wants to hear from you.
  2. You matter. A broken relationship does not define those who find their identity in Jesus Christ. The Bible is clear, “Even if my father and mother abandon me, the LORD will hold me close” (Psalm 27:10). And when you choose to let God take you in, you become His child. You are adopted into God’s family and get to “share in the inheritance that belongs to his people” (Colossians 1:12).
  3. You’ll get through this. The Bible says, “Despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us” (Romans 8:37). God gave you the desire to love and be loved. He cannot fail you. He will dry your eyes, lift up your head and make it possible for you to get over your heartbreak.
  4. There’s no deadline. Victory is promised through Jesus, but there isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution for your broken heart. Healing takes time. Evangelist Billy Graham has likened it to recovering from major surgery. Just as your skin, ligaments and muscles need time to heal, so do your emotions.
  5. You will love again. More than just getting through it, God can restore your heart if you let Him fill you with His perfect and faithful love. God created a desire in each of us that can only be filled by Him—then we can experience restoration. God promises to “give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you” (Ezekiel 36:26). That means you can love again. Your heart can be whole again if you choose to experience God’s unfailing love.

Let God heal your heartbreak, beginning with a relationship with Jesus.


Step 1 – God loves you and has a plan for you!

The Bible says, “God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, [Jesus Christ], that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life” (John 3:16). Jesus said, “I came that they may have life and have it abundantly”—a complete life full of purpose (John 10:10). But here’s the problem:

Step 2 – People are sinful and separated from God.

We have all done, thought or said bad things, which the Bible calls “sin.” The Bible says, “All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23). The result of sin is death, spiritual separation from God (Romans 6:23). The good news?

Step 3 – God sent His Son to die for your sins!

Jesus died in our place so we could have a relationship with God and be with Him forever. “God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us” (Romans 5:8). But it didn’t end with His death on the cross. He rose again and still lives! “Christ died for our sins. … He was buried. … He was raised on the third day, according to the Scriptures” (1 Corinthians 15:3-4). Jesus is the only way to God. Jesus said, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life; no one comes to the Father, but through Me” (John 14:6).

Step 4 – Would you like to receive God’s forgiveness?

We can’t earn salvation; we are saved by God’s grace when we have faith in His Son, Jesus Christ. All you have to do is believe you are a sinner, that Christ died for your sins, and ask His forgiveness. Then turn from your sins—that’s called repentance. Jesus Christ knows you and loves you. What matters to Him is the attitude of your heart, your honesty. We suggest praying the following prayer to accept Christ as your Savior:

"Dear God, I know I’m a sinner, and I ask for your forgiveness. I believe Jesus Christ is Your Son. I believe that He died for my sin and that you raised Him to life. I want to trust Him as my Savior and follow Him as Lord, from this day forward. Guide my life and help me to do your will. I pray this in the name of Jesus. Amen."

Did you pray this prayer?